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How can you help your elementary kids through the hardship of divorce?

On Behalf of | Apr 19, 2021 | Divorce |

When you divorce, one of your biggest worries may be how your children cope with your decision. Children have difficulties accepting and coping with divorce at all ages. However, some children may be more prone to emotional or behavioral problems.

According to Healthline, elementary-age children have the toughest time with divorce.

Understanding their behavior

Elementary school-aged children have it tough because they can still remember the good times but also understand more about conflict. Children naturally question the world around them. You may hear your children ask questions about why you cannot stay together for them or what they did to cause it. Kids’ behavior tends to revolve around themselves. They look for a role they played in the divorce.

Children may experience depression, anxiety and may become difficult to communicate with. On the other hand, some children may lash out at you or your ex.

Communicating about divorce

To deal with their behavior, you have to understand why they feel how they do. One way to ease the transition is to make it as conflict-free as possible. You should not expose your children to the disagreements between you and your former spouse. Instead, be amicable. Try to discuss the divorce with your children in a healthy, gentle way.

Allow children to express themselves. They should never feel like they have to hide their emotions. Kids will get through a divorce but you have to be their support.

If you need extra help, you may want to consider reading books to your children that handle the concept of divorce. All reading materials and conversations should remain age-appropriate.