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Is there a good time to tell your child about your split?

On Behalf of | Oct 1, 2020 | Divorce |

Michigan parents like you prioritize the well-being of your child in any situation. In times of hardship, you value your child’s health and happiness even more. Unfortunately, divorce can create a conundrum for you. How do you protect your child through the inevitable split? 

Among the questions you may have, questions about the timing may be chief among them. Can you impact how your child handles divorce based on when you break the news? 

Opt to tell them sooner rather than later

Psychology Today states that there is no real “good time” to tell your child about divorce. However, they suggest you speak with your child about it sooner rather than later. This is because fear of the unknown forms the basis for many issues children have with divorce. You can help alleviate this fear by doing a few things, including: 

  • Bringing the news to them sooner rather than later 
  • Speaking of divorce openly and frankly 
  • Answering the questions your child has 
  • Providing information where possible 

Know what to share with your child

Of course, it is also important to maintain a level of privacy and separation. Divorce is an adult matter, after all. No matter how inquisitive or insistent your child is, there are some things they simply do not need to know. 

Work together with your co-parent to decide where you want to draw these lines. Once you get on the same page, you will find it easier to field questions and give information. In turn, this ease of communication can help your child feel better about the divorce. Seeing you and your co-parent cooperate can also leave them feeling a sense of ease.